The Reverend Ralph Lord Roy

The Reverend Ralph Lord Roy


Let us remember with thanksgiving the life and ministry of Rev. Ralph Lord Roy, 91, of Southington, CT, who died on Monday, February 3, 2020 at the Hospital of Central Connecticut, New Britain Campus.

Son of Howard and Olive (Corliss) Roy, Pastor Roy was born in St. Albans, VT and raised in the nearby town of Swanton, VT. He was educated at Mt. Hermon School, Swarthmore College, Columbia University, and Union Theological Seminary.

After his ordination as a United Methodist minister, he served the following churches in New York: Metropolitan Community UMC in Manhattan, Grace UMC in Manhattan, Greene Avenue and Knickerbocker Avenue UMCs in Brooklyn; and Warren Street UMC in Brooklyn. In Connecticut he pastored Clinton, Milford, and First UMC in Meriden. Pastor Roy retired in 1993. In retirement he served First UMC in Thomaston, East Berlin UMC, and First and Summerfield UMC in New Haven. Pastor Roy loved the pastoral ministry and his parishioners. He officiated at hundreds of baptisms, confirmations, weddings, and funerals.

Pastor Roy is survived by his daughter, Joyce Roy, and her husband, Raymond DePaola, of Enfield, NH; a sister, Erma Parker, of South Daytona, FL; a special friend, Joan Bauder; and nine nieces and nephews. He was predeceased by his beloved wife, Margaret Finlay Roy, and his three brothers, Wayne, Malcolm, and Howard, Jr.

Calling hours will be Friday, February 7, 2020 from 4:00 pm -7:00 pm at DellaVecchia Funeral Home, 211 N. Main St., Southington, CT. A memorial service will be held on Saturday, February 15, 2020, at 11:00 am at the First United Methodist Church, 159 East Main St., Meriden, CT 06450. Burial will be in Swanton, VT at a later date.

In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to Memorial United Methodist Church, 23 Grand Avenue, Swanton, VT 05488; Grace United Methodist Church, 121 Pleasant Street, Southington, CT 06489; and/or First United Methodist Church, 159 East Main Street, Meriden, Connecticut 06450.

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